3. Giving Without any Conditions or Concern for Past Slights

World Scripture

He who gives his wealth to purify himself, and confers no favor on any man for recompense, only seeking the Face of his Lord the Most High; He shall surely be satisfied.
Qur’an 92.18-21

A gift is a gift of integrity when it is given at the right place and time to the proper person, To one who cannot be expected to return the gift— and given merely because it should be given.

But what is given to get a gift in return, or for the sake of some result, Or unwillingly, That is a gift in the sphere of passion.

A gift is called slothful when it is given not at the right time and place, Nor to a worthy person, nor with proper ceremony, but with contempt.
Bhagavad-Gita 17.20-22 (Hinduism)

A man who is out to make a name for himself will be able to give away a state of a thousand chariots, but reluctance would be written all over his face if he had to give away a basketful of rice and a bowlful of soup when no such purpose was served.
Mencius VII.B.11 (Confucianism)

“If I give this, what shall I [have left to] enjoy?” Such selfish thinking is the way of the ghosts; “If I enjoy this, what shall I [have left to] give?” Such selfless thinking is a quality of the gods.
Shantideva, Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life 8.125 (Buddhism)

Teachings of Sun Myung Moon

True love is love that gives and forgets what it gave. Having forgotten what you gave, you want to give again and again.
(162:239, April 12, 1987)

You give and then forget. You do not keep an account of what you gave, but forget it. When you give and forget, you are elevating your beloved above yourself. Give and forget—that’s the idea. As soon as you remember what you gave, it breaks the circuit of giving. Unity does not exist where there is self-assertion—where a husband asserts his rights or a wife asserts her rights. God created the universe by investing without limit. Therefore, when a man gives limitlessly for the sake of his wife, and the woman likewise gives limitlessly for her husband, they can achieve total unity. You couples can become completely one by giving and forgetting, following God’s pattern.
(267:301-02, February 5, 1995)

God desires a free, peaceful, and happy place where giving has no accusers and receiving has no conditions attached. God’s purpose is to expand this place worldwide and bring all humankind to live there.
(13:249, April 12, 1964)